The Unwritten Rules of Surviving a Midwest Potluck

It's that time of year where Midwest potlucks are inevitable. And while each potluck is as unique as a snowflake, there are certain dishes and rituals performed at each one that make them feel the same.

If you've ever been to one, you know a potluck is equal parts food, camaraderie, and polite, silent judging.

If you're going to survive a potluck in Michigan, you'll need a plan. Luckily for you, I've lived through 35 years of potlucks and will happily share every thing I know.

Bring a Dish to Pass… But Not That Dish

It's a potluck so you can't show up empty-handed. But, you have to choose which dish to bring carefully. If Aunt Betsy is known for her "famous" Green Bean Casserole, let her bring it. Don't compete.

And for Pete's sake, check the sign-up sheet. That way there's not three people bringing mac & cheese.

Compliment Everything… Even the Suspicious Stuff

You don't have to eat everything. But, it's kind of an unwritten rule that you should compliment everything.

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Does that "salad" made completely of Jell-O, whipped cream, and fruit look a little suspicious? Just smile and say: "Oh wow, this looks fun!"

If you really do like something, you can always ask: "Whose recipe is this?". But you'll want to prepare yourself for a 12-minute story about this person's aunt's neighbor's cousin.

How to Politely Avoid Foods You Don’t Like

Yes, you can avoid dishes you don't want to eat without hurting people's feelings. You just do it the Midwest polite way—extreme politeness and tiny white lies.

Say something like, "Dang it, I'll have to grab it the next round." Spoiler: you won't.

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Or, you can always feign "sensitive stomach" issues. "I'd love to try it but my stomach's been weird today." Keep it vague. Believe me, no one wants you to go into further details.

Prepare for Leftovers and Michigan Goodbyes

Now that you've eaten (or avoided) all the foods you wanted, it's time to leave. First, you'll go home with just as much food as you came with, just in the form of leftovers of other dishes. Don't think you're getting out of there empty-handed.

Second, prepare to put your coat on and then take 20 minutes to say goodbye. It's a Michigan thing...

I hope these tips help!